I had a girlfriend that after 8 years now, I still think about from time to time. We broke up because she cheated on me, but I started seeing her again soon after while I was dating my wife. I prefered her sexually but I wanted to be with my wife for who she was, which won out over the physical. But what caused me to start seeing my x in the first place had started with friendship. Sooner or later I was in a room alone and she wanted me to give her a massage (I was in school for massage therapy, so this was not strange) One thing led to anouther (I was already carresing her body, what would kissing hurt, I kissed her what would going further hust...)I will catch myself from time to time wanting to e-mail my x to find out what she is up to, but stop because I know that it could result into something. First a conversation, then a friendly dinner or such. Then a friendship. Then little by little things esculate. I know you are probably thinking that I just have no controll, but I think most men lack the control when confronted with the chance for some strange, it is the preparation and making sure the man doesnt get into that kind of situation so the oppertunity doesnt present itself..
I had never done this before, and purely by accident that is exactly how my b/f and I started out. Our first date was a friday and he left the very next sunday for two weeks in asia. He called me as soon as his plane landed to find out if I could see him that weekend . Then I went to Europe for a week after our second date - and he called me within moments of my plane landing, etc. 3.5 years later I'm fairly confident we will get married one of these days..
best homepage in a long time.
And part of it was myself, to be honest. I was pretty inexperienced with women and dating at the time. I was also unemployed and even had to move back home to live with my parents at the time (!). [I was a math postdoc and my grant had run out and it was being renewed for me month-to-month. She was an administrator in the department I worked and that is where we met.] I could also be arrogant and abrasive. And I'm prone to losing sexual interest fast, all the while building an emotional connection. That's a rough combination..